Monday, 5 November 2012

Anonymity

Anonymity. I can't even pronounce it. It's a really hard word to say.

(In my head I pronounce it "an-on-ny-no-mi-nity" - Seriously)

I was having a chat with someone the other day who was quite surprised that my blog is public knowledge in my personal life. I was surprised that they thought this was odd.

I mean, why shouldn't they know I write a blog? They all feature in it. Surely it would be rude for me to write about the people in my life without making them aware of it?

I would never write anything that I think would offend or embarrass them. In fact I have a blog post I'm not sure about publishing in case it's too personal so I'm going to ask their opinion first. In my opinion it's common decency. However, in a sense it does limit what I write about.

The past 2 weeks I have really struggled for material for my blog. I don't know if it's because I haven't done anything exciting or because I'm suffering writers block. I do know however, that if my blog was anonymous, I would have a lot more to write about. I could give my opinions on things without offending people I know personally. It would give me a space to air my own opinions without causing an argument.

I have been toying with the idea of starting another blog - anonymously.

But then I think, why should I? If the things I want to post are offensive or embarrassing then I shouldn't post them irregardless of whether it's anonymous or not. I'm just not that sort of person.

Nothing I have posted on my blog could get me in trouble. Nobody is going to search it and find something incriminating about somebody else. I don't even have to worry about Princess because I don't post her name. I know that those of you on my Twitter know her name, but I know that nobody in her school 10 years from now is going to Google her and find embarrassing information on there. And they won't on here either. When Princess is old enough to understand, I will tell her about my blog. I will allow her to read it, and if she wants, I will probably allow her to write on it too. If she wants to stay anonymous, that's then her decision.

I'm conflicted with the idea of anonymity. I think being anonymous can be great, especially if you're the sort of person who has lots of opinions but don't want to be personally linked to them. I do find myself asking the same question though. If you are not open and honest about your blog, then what is it you are hiding? I'm not saying that because you don't flaunt your blog to your friends then you're a criminal, it's just that surely there is a reason behind not telling them?

Blogs are our own little space on the internet. It's like a little garden that we can grow and create how we please, one that we can tend to and prune. I am proud of my blog, I am. I also have family members who are proud of me, because of my blog. There is no better feeling than that.

I recently made the decision to post my blog on my personal Facebook page. I have a separate page for my actual blog updates, but I thought if I advertised on my personal page, then all of my other friends could also see it. I toyed with the idea for ages, I wasn't sure if it would be a good thing or bad thing. But then I realised I have nothing to hide. All opinions and musings on here are my own. I haven't stolen them and I haven't insulted anyone. Since I did this, I have had nothing but praise.

It feels uplifting to have people I know personally give me compliments on my writing and design. I love that people I don't speak to often can relate to something I've written.

If I were to stay anonymous, I wouldn't have any of that. My blog doesn't have a massive following, I don't have 1000's of Twitter followers. But it doesn't matter to me, because I know my friends and family are proud.

At the end of the day, I write my blog for me. If other people choose to read it, that's amazing. I appreciate every single one of you. I'm not going to hide behind a pseudonym and spout opinions about people I know or share other peoples stories just because nobody knows who I am.

I can honestly say that what you see is what you get. I'm not pretending to be somebody I'm not which is something that can be easily done when you're anonymous. If I were spouting bullshit on here, somebody would call me up on it.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that, even though my posts can be limited and my topic range varied, I'm glad that I'm Misty.. Seriously.

Do you see what I did there? Do ya!?

5 comments:

Suzanne said...

I know someone else who blogs publicly and then has a separate anonymous one, like you mentioned. I regularly question who I share my blog with - obviously my close friends and family are aware of it but I think what stops me from sharing it with my wider circle is embarassment. I'm not sure why, but I'm worried what they will think of me.....weird huh?! Interesting topic Misty :)

Misty Bird said...

Why thank you, I try ;)
I think that's what it is, fear of judgement. But then if you think about it, if we're so worried about being judged by our peers, why do we lay it all out on our blogs? I was scared of judgement too, but then I thought the people that mattered would be supportive, so who cares!
The anonymous side does appeal to me in a way, but I much prefer the honest side of blogging :)

Anonymous said...

Please stay public girl you have nothing to hide love mum xx

Claire Evans said...

Hi, I'm thinking of posting on facebook too. I have to be brave and do this! ;-) Thanks for the post, nice to hear some one else has the same worries too. x

Misty B said...

I think my biggest worry was that no one would like my Facebook page. I mean I had an advantage anyway because my family would like it but I wasn't sure about anyone else. I don't use it often but it's handy to have an is definitely a good way of building more readers. If you ever make a page be sure you let me know what it is!